No matter how much effort you put into it, how nice you wan to be, at the start once you are being seen as a minority, you shall always be a minority. Like in studies, work smart, not work hard to achieve good results. No point working hard for 10 hours and still lose to a person who work smart for 2hrs. While in relationships kind, its better to be smart and not to work hard to try to get yourself "promote". Know your authority, know where you stand and know whose the 1 really worthy for you to treat them the best. This is just something that can't be force, as long as you're happy with it, even only there is 3 or 4 in the group, you will still feel much happier than you are in the group of 15 with divided status.
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